3 Uncomfortable Truths About Inner Freedom
- “In life, whatever happens — good or bad — we must take full responsibility and accountability for it. Every outcome, every turn, every situation is, in some way, shaped by our own choices — be it through decisions, sacrifices, adjustments, or risks. Even if others were involved, it happened because you allowed it to. So, own it completely. Defend your choices. Be ready to face their consequences with clarity and courage. But never alter your stance or blame others just to fit someone else’s opinion. Stand by your truth — because it’s yours.” — Kesari Babu
- “When you choose someone or something, you have two paths: 1. Choose it and help others around you accept it as you did. 2. Choose it and ignore whether others accept it or not. But in either case, never do it secretly — unless you truly live alone in this world.” — Kesari Babu
- "Your honesty, loyalty, and genuineness often hold no value when others are clouded by negativity — shaped by social media, past experiences, or personal bias. They demand proof for every virtue, but that’s not always possible. So, one must silently carry the burden of being misunderstood." — Kesari Babu
The modern paradox I observe — and often experience — is a relentless pursuit of external control met with an increasing sense of internal chaos. I strive to manage outcomes and perceptions, only to find myself exhausted and powerless. I chase external validation, try to manage others' perceptions, and feel defeated when things don’t go according to plan. This constant effort to control the external world is a futile and draining endeavour.
But over time, I’ve come to realize something different — that true personal power doesn’t come from controlling outcomes, but from embracing a few challenging, counterintuitive principles. My writings are my attempt to articulate this journey — one that moves toward inner freedom by stripping away comforting illusions and building a framework rooted in radical ownership, transparent integrity, and quiet courage. These ideas are not easy, but they are transformative for anyone, including myself, who seeks to live with purpose and clarity.
I am not a victim of my life; I am a participant in everything I allow.
Radical Responsibility
The first principle I live by is radical responsibility — the mindset of taking full ownership for every outcome in my life, good or bad. This philosophy rejects blame and excuses, urging me to see that every situation is shaped by my choices — whether through my direct decisions, sacrifices, or even my silence.
The hardest part of this truth is realizing that even when others are involved, an outcome happens because, on some level, I allowed it to. This is not about self-blame for another person’s wrongdoing — it’s about reclaiming power by shifting perspective. It forces me to look beyond surface-level blame and recognize the subtle permissions I often give — when I ignore red flags, fail to set boundaries, or let fear dictate my actions. Instead of asking, “Why did this happen to me?” I ask, “What did I allow?”
This uncomfortable shift transforms how I see life — from a series of events that happen to me to a reality I actively co-create through consent, silence, or avoidance. It demands that I trade the comfort of blaming others for the power of owning my role.
As I once wrote:
This shift is profoundly liberating. It reframes consequence as feedback, not failure. It turns the burden of responsibility into a tool for freedom. When I own every aspect of my experience, I reclaim the power to learn, adapt, and grow. In that state of awareness, nothing can truly own me.
Hiding My Choices Is a Form of Self-Betrayal
The second truth I live by concerns the ethics of my most important life choices — the ones involving love, career, and core beliefs. These decisions, I’ve learned, carry a moral responsibility of transparency. Secrecy in such matters is rarely neutral; it often implies fear, shame, or deception — all of which erode trust and integrity.
Once I make a defining choice, I see two paths forward. The first is the path of advocacy, where I consciously work to help others understand and accept my decision. The second is the path of autonomy, where I stand by my choice regardless of whether others approve.
The uncomfortable truth here is that my choices are never purely private. They are reflections of my integrity — public statements of who I am. Secrecy might feel safe, but it corrodes the soul. Transparency, though uncomfortable, is cleaner and more aligned with truth.
As I wrote:
“But in either case, never do it secretly — unless you truly live alone in this world.”
That principle reminds me that our lives are deeply interconnected. Secrecy denies others the dignity of understanding and adapting to reality. It also denies me the peace that comes from living truthfully. To act in secret is to disrespect others. To be transparent is to honour both my integrity and theirs.
The Strength to Be Misunderstood
The third truth I hold close is perhaps the most painful — the willingness to be misunderstood. I’ve learned that my honesty, loyalty, and genuineness often hold no value to those clouded by negativity, bias, or past wounds. People demand proof for every virtue, yet virtue is not something that always can — or should — be proven.
When faced with suspicion, I’ve felt the urge to explain, to justify, to prove my good intentions. But I’ve realized that this is an exhausting trial of justification. Virtue performed for validation loses its purity.
My challenge has been to shift from needing external validation to resting in internal conviction — to remember that character is defined not by who believes in my goodness, but by how I behave when no one does.
As I said:
This realization brings peace. True character isn’t about convincing the world — it’s about maintaining integrity even when unseen or doubted. Peace comes from living my truth, not from getting others to believe it.
The thread that unites these three truths — radical ownership, transparent integrity, and quiet courage — is a deep commitment to living consciously and truthfully. These aren’t philosophies for an easy life, but they are the foundations of a meaningful one.
As I continue to reflect, I ask myself — and you — this question:
Which of these truths challenges your current way of living the most, and what is one small step you can take today to embody it?
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